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- Candles from MOR
Candles and Tea Lights. Have them. Use them. My most indulgent candles come from MOR and they are divinity alight.
Brisbane – January 2011. I was directly affected by the floods, although I was extremely fortunate. It’s been a while since I’ve posted and I’m attributing this to a rather significant event in my city. It’s taken me quite a while to gather my thoughts and process everything that happened.

- 2011 Brisbane Floods | Photos courtesy of Moi
The (imaginatively named) Brisbane River broke its banks affecting the park opposite my house on the morning of Tuesday 11 January. My work, located in the suburb of Herston was experiencing flash-flooding and was evacuated about lunchtime.
By the time I arrived home the police had already closed my street as the water had reclaimed large portions of the park, access to the bus stops and was working its way up the road. I had to explain I lived on the street and agree I would only enter my home, retrieve some belongings and leave again. Apparently there were officers already door knocking to advise people to leave.
It’s a very strange feeling to stand in your home, to discriminate between belongings. What will be left to fend for itself and what you deem, for some reason, to be essential and necessary to be preserved. At the time, there really wasn’t much I felt I couldn’t live without.
By mid afternoon on Tuesday I was safely relocated in a friend’s house, who were holidaying in Vietnam. A general feeling of chaos (but not panic) was descending on the city. Businesses were closing, public transport routes were altered and entire transport lines were shut down. Helicopters were starting to echo around and emergency service sirens. Shops were being emptied and phones were running hot as people checked in on friends and loved ones.
Tuesday night was a long night and news about the flood was inescapable. Reports were not good. And as the night meandered onwards the sounds of the helicopters and sirens increased.
Apparently my stress response is to channel Nigella Lawson, because I started baking Wednesday morning. I had hoped some friends would come round for brunch but they’d been involved in a late night evacuation of a mutual friend and were attempting to rescue more of his belongings by kayak. A new sound was added to the flood soundtrack – alarms. Shrill fire/smoke alarms.
I was collected by my friends, who were inspecting the homes of people we knew to see what the status was. Water had surrounded my home and was lapping at the building. A neighbour kindly allowed us to climb over our shared back fence. I’m eternally grateful for the boys who rescued my washing machine and a number of items from my downstairs laundry. The power had already been switched off, and all bar one of my neighbours had been evacuated. He described how emergency personnel used choppers to find people and direct on the ground officers. We didn’t stay long.
I spent a good portion of the day in the company of some friends, trying to stay out of my head. Large portions of West End and Southbank were now flooded. News about surrounding suburbs such as Fairfield, Yeronga, Jindalee, and Oxley were terrible. And then it is as if time was suspended. My evacuation house was without power and an uncanny silence descended on the neighbourhood. It was if life stopped and there was only the flood with its sirens, helicopters and alarms.
Being by myself in a strange home; without power, phones, internet or any other form of connection to the outside world was not the ideal situation. So, I again packed myself up and moved into the home of another friend. Although only 5 minutes drive from my place, she had power… and a hot shower!
I stayed with her for just over a week. During which the flood waters receded, a giant clean-up got underway and eventually I was able to return home. That first night in my own bed was the sweetest of sleeps.
I came out of the floods very fortunate, only the downstairs laundry/garage was flooded. I was without electricity for two weeks. I lost the entire contents of my fridge and freezer from power cuts, and from my downstairs area, furniture I was storing (I routinely rotate furniture around) that had been flatpacked, a storage cabinet, camping equipment, photos but possibly what hurt the most was my artists portfolio and my architectural portfolio.
Since the initial clean-up I’ve had to scrub and disinfect my place several times and am still finding mud, silt and mould. My building has had some plumbing and drainage issues but they are repairable.
The last of the residents returned home last weekend as their power was finally able to be reconnected.
It is only now, one month later, that I can sleep while it’s raining. I still have nightmares but it’s only occasionally now. The stench which I thought would be with me forever has dissipated and cannot be recalled. I haven’t been able to return to the local park yet but I am confident that will be very soon. Because after the floods life is returning.

The Elegant Lily
Quite simply, I love them.
They’re beautiful, elegant, paradoxically simple yet complicated. They’re enduring as cut flowers (outlasting the rose and gerbera in a vase). And very deserving to be included in my desire confection mosaic.
but I don’t know many of them.”
On this, I completely agree with Sylvia Plath. No discussion just unanimously supportive.
Not having a bath in my own apartment, I have carefully cultivated some friendships where a desperate phone call to use the bath is, if not understood, at least tolerated. So on occaison I am allowed to observe the sacred ritual of bathing producing a marvel of deep relaxation.
Being known for this proclivity, my bath-owning friends will leave me with their keys whenever they go away.. This free-access to a bath is a heady invitation which I can never resist. And so during the holidays, I found myself drawing a bath at a friends place: eagerly mixing my bubble bath and bath salts to perfection (It does not do, to stew myself in something that smells like a puddle), carefully lighting tea light candles whilst arranging a nice chilled glass of white wine and some fresh strawberries in easy reach. Perfection, I’m almost purring just thinking about it…
Well it would have been if not for my friends beloved parrot.
I was just begining to unwind when suddenly a shill little voice screeched, “What are you doing?” “Hey, what are you doing?” then wolf whistling with zest. It’s more than a little disconcerting… Stubbornly clinging to the idea I could continue my bath, I was sure the parrot purged his system of the need to say anything further. I was certainly not going to encourange, respond or in any way engage with him at the expense of my bath. How wrong I can be. I was treated to several renditions of the “what are you doing?” sequence then the wolf whistle with bonus blood curdling screech at irregular intervals… There was only one way a hot bath could cure this for me, but quite frankly I just don’t have it in me to be cruel to an animal.
And so, I was thwarted by a 3 inch feather-duster with no sense of privacy and a tradesman’s vocabulary.
Something about that calendar ticking over to a bright and shiny new year is a lovely wonderful idea.

This year is ripe with hope… RIPE I tell you! All potential and plans just bubbling away under the surface, a future just effervescing to a certain reality… I hope. And what does the future hold?
Try every tea available in Australia — Learn to Ride-A-Bike — Wear false eyelashes to a non-event — Do something out of crazy for a guy — Ride a camel — Try on a wedding dress — Buy an easel — Take up painting again — Attend a ball — Grow my own herbs — Go kayaking — Be conversational in French & Arabic — Go berry picking — Take up dancing again — Ride a horse again — High Tea for no reason — Start a savings account — Champagne Thursday, make it a tradition — Learn to use my camera — Girly retreat — Invent a cocktail — Go a week without my phone — Make Ice Cream from scratch — Finish up or forget all my unfinished projects — Throw 10 parties | Family Dinner Party | Chick Flick Bonanza — Get a moquito net for over the bed — Put up my fairy lights again — Accept a belly dancers invitation to dance at Caravanserai but know my limits; limbo always ends badly — Read the poetry of other countries — Be a right bitch about something — Walk barefoot in a park — Go to the theatre, ballet and/or opera — Use the good tea set.
This is the plan thus far. Feel free to comment or let me know your own lists.
I met Lil’sis for a catch-up coffee. She’s all shiny-haired and stylishly attired. We perch on our cafe chairs like good little patrons and snippy-ly await our beverages. We always order the same, which is unusual for me, one skinny latte + one flat-white. I love our coffee breaks.

Coffee with Lil'sis | Photo courtesy of Moi
Once our orders arrive, addiction slightly abated; we’re free to delve into the family gossip, who makes the better coffee (family get-togethers are a battle of the barista’s) and why; WHY?!? does someone insist on putting a heaped teaspoon of International Roast into a giant mug? Coffee pleasure is not achieved by cup size. If it’s bad, I’m not feeling appreciative because you’ve given me a scant litre. Are you trying to burn a hole in my stomach? We both shudder and gratefully sip our beautiful, creamy full-bodied brews.
I don’t even mind the universally uncomfortable cafe chairs – who are they designed by? But in the moment, I don’t care. My modest-sized coffee is that good.

Irving Penn - Vintage Fashion Photo
Race-day fashions had a big outing this Melbourne Cup Day. I had the pleasure of being in the CBD, watching sharp-suited men escorting their well-heeled, be-fascinatored women. Everyone looking very well; lovely. I’m a big fan of the fascinator, personally I think there should be more occasions to wear them! The more frivolous the better.
Fascinators, in my view are the perfect combination of elegance, flirtation and drama; they are the antithesis of work. They’re feminine and in my experience donning a fascinator has ALWAYS followed a thoroughly enjoyable event.
In fact, I found an online definition for fascinators as, “delicate, slightly-to-very frivolous head decoration”. Originally however, the term described shawl-like headcoverings made out of wool and lace… not so fabulous. Thank goodness for the milliners renaissance.
In Brisbane, Alexandra Harper is a haute-couture milliner who makes amazing pieces. Myer is also stocking a sparkling array of fascinators if you’re not looking for an artisan’s work. So there is really no excuse for not having one in your collection.
And when should you reach for that fabulous fascinator?
- if champagne is being opened
- weddings
- funerals
- cocktail parties (or ‘cocktail attire’ is called for)
- launching a boat… or other mode of transport
- fancy dress
- high-tea/lunch with the girls



