#2 Way to Live

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#1 Way to Live

Indulgent Candles
Candles from MOR

Candles and Tea Lights. Have them. Use them. My most indulgent candles come from MOR and they are divinity alight.

This is part of my 101 Ways to Live series (follow the link to read the original post). In today’s modern age of abundant electricity, lighting a candle has become an indulgence. Candles have been linked with hope, ritual, romance and triumph of illumination. 
It is a beautiful feeling to turn out the lights, set some soothing blues or jazz and set alight some candles. Kick back for 10 minutes with a glass of wine and enjoy the break. Share your chillout by inviting a few of the gals. But do remember candles do need to be enjoyed responsibly.

101 Ways to Live

Enjoy your life | 100 Ways to Live

A good friend of mine on hearing about my pursuit to reconnect to the pleasures of life sent me a list of 101 Ways to Live. In it she listed those small things that give her pleasure, reconnect her to her goals and remind her of her own value in life. It was a beautiful gesture to share these personal motivators. She is a valued friend and it has prompted me into thinking about those little things that are within our control to make us feel life is good.

So, in addition to my regular content I’ll post my own 101 Ways to Live. Some items are completely original, some I have adapted from the musings of others but have included them because they resonate in me. If you have your own thoughts feel free to add them to this list.

To a happy fulfilling life

A Family Affair

Dinner for Five at Six.

The Dinner Menu | Photos courtesy of Moi

That’s right as part of my “Youthful New Year” campaign posted earlier this year I deigned to throw 10 Parties in 2011.

For my first big adventure I organised a dinner party, something simple and classy was my initial plan. And why not invite, quite possibly my toughest audience. Yes, you’re quite right I organised a dinner party for my family: 4 members of my immediate family in fact.

I tried to time it so that there were appetisers ready to serve very soon after they arrived. With the main served about 1 hour following that. So, the menu is as follows:

appetisers
Caramelised Cabonossi
Antipasto platter

main
Marinara spaghetti
Green Leaf Salad with Lemon Salt Dressing
Crusty Bread

dessert
Pomegranate Ice Cream

supper
Good Quality Coffee
Chocolate

I deem this party a success!

The Cabonossi, which seemed completely kitsch was actually really tasty and the plate was inhaled rather quickly. I got the recipe out of Nigella Lawson’s Nigella Express. For the platter, I went to the local deli Venus Deli (located on Vulture Street, West End) who were very helpful in helping me obtain these beautiful spanish olives that tasted both clean and pleasantly tart. Some marinated persian feta which is so smooth and delicate it just melts in your mouth. And a few other odds and ends.

The main course was from a Jamie Oliver’s Happy Days.  The salad was my own invention. I just wanted something that was light and summery to offset all those carbs. Jamie’s recipe made a HUGE amount of spaghetti: we could have possibly fed a whole mess hall with the dish! I became quite the food-pusher urging everyone to “eat” and “eat again”. I’m not sure what good leftover marinara might be. I for one wasn’t going to explore the possibility.

And could anything sound as exotic and sophisticated as pomegranate ice cream? This was absolutely delicious, again the recipe can be found in Nigella Express. I’ve made ice cream before and it was not worth the effort – beating it every few hours but this recipe is incredibly easy and once it’s in the freezer you’re done. It’s a light soft pink colour, the texture is very creamy but not dense like some homemade ice-cream. It feels light to eat and the flavours of lime and pomegranate beautifully complement each other.

There was satisfied mmming around the table following each course. It was a pleasant affair and it seems my audience were appreciative. Wonderful!

Apres le Deluge

Brisbane – January 2011. I was directly affected by the floods, although I was extremely fortunate. It’s been a while since I’ve posted and I’m attributing  this to a rather significant event in my city. It’s taken me quite a while to gather my thoughts and process everything that happened.

2011 Brisbane Floods | Photos courtesy of Moi

The (imaginatively named) Brisbane River broke its banks affecting the park opposite my house on the morning of Tuesday 11 January. My work, located in the suburb of Herston was experiencing flash-flooding and was evacuated about lunchtime.

By the time I arrived home the police had already closed my street as the water had reclaimed large portions of the park, access to the bus stops and was working its way up the road. I had to explain I lived on the street and agree I would only enter my home, retrieve some belongings and leave again. Apparently there were officers already door knocking to advise people to leave.

It’s a very strange feeling to stand in your home, to discriminate between belongings. What will be left to fend for itself and what you deem, for some reason, to be essential and necessary to be preserved. At the time, there really wasn’t much I felt I couldn’t live without.

By mid afternoon on Tuesday I was safely relocated in a friend’s house, who were holidaying in Vietnam. A general feeling of chaos (but not panic) was descending on the city. Businesses were closing, public transport routes were altered and entire transport lines were shut down. Helicopters were starting to echo around and emergency service sirens. Shops were being emptied and phones were running hot as people checked in on friends and loved ones.

Tuesday night was a long night and news about the flood was inescapable. Reports were not good. And as the night meandered onwards the sounds of the helicopters and sirens increased.

Apparently my stress response is to channel Nigella Lawson, because I started baking Wednesday morning. I had hoped some friends would come round for brunch but they’d been involved in a late night evacuation of a mutual friend and were attempting to rescue more of his belongings by kayak. A new sound was added to the flood soundtrack – alarms. Shrill fire/smoke alarms.

I was collected by my friends, who were inspecting the homes of people we knew to see what the status was. Water had surrounded my home and was lapping at the building. A neighbour kindly allowed us to climb over our shared back fence.  I’m eternally grateful for the boys who rescued my washing machine and a number of items from my downstairs laundry. The power had already been switched off, and all bar one of my neighbours had been evacuated. He described how emergency personnel used choppers to find people and direct on the ground officers. We didn’t stay long.

I spent a good portion of the day in the company of some friends, trying to stay out of my head. Large portions of West End and Southbank were now flooded. News about surrounding suburbs such as Fairfield, Yeronga, Jindalee, and Oxley were terrible. And then it is as if time was suspended. My evacuation house was without power and an uncanny silence descended on the neighbourhood. It was if life stopped and there was only the flood with its sirens, helicopters and alarms.

Being by myself in a strange home; without power, phones, internet or any other form of connection to the outside world was not the ideal situation. So, I again packed myself up and moved into the home of another friend. Although only 5 minutes drive from my place, she had power… and a hot shower!

I stayed with her for just over a week. During which the flood waters receded, a giant clean-up got underway and eventually I was able to return home. That first night in my own bed was the sweetest of sleeps.

I came out of the floods very fortunate, only the downstairs laundry/garage was flooded. I was without electricity for two weeks. I lost the entire contents of my fridge and freezer from power cuts, and from my downstairs area, furniture I was storing (I routinely rotate furniture around) that had been flatpacked, a storage cabinet, camping equipment, photos but possibly what hurt the most was my artists portfolio and my architectural portfolio.

Since the initial clean-up I’ve had to scrub and disinfect my place several times and am still finding mud, silt and mould. My building has had some plumbing and drainage issues but they are repairable.

The last of the residents returned home last weekend as their power was finally able to be reconnected.

It is only now, one month later, that I can sleep while it’s raining. I still have nightmares but it’s only occasionally now. The stench which I thought would be with me forever has dissipated and cannot be recalled. I haven’t been able to return to the local park yet but I am confident that will be very soon. Because after the floods life is returning.

An Enduring Love

The Elegant Lily

Quite simply, I love them.

They’re beautiful, elegant, paradoxically simple yet complicated. They’re enduring as cut flowers (outlasting the rose and gerbera in a vase). And very deserving to be included in my desire confection mosaic.

“There must be quite a few things a hot bath won’t cure…

but I don’t know many of them.”

On this, I completely agree with Sylvia Plath. No discussion just unanimously supportive.

Not having a bath in my own apartment, I have carefully cultivated some friendships where a desperate phone call to use the bath is, if not understood, at least tolerated. So on occaison I am allowed to observe the sacred ritual of bathing producing a marvel of deep relaxation.

Being known for this proclivity, my bath-owning friends will leave me with their keys whenever they go away.. This free-access to a bath is a heady invitation which I can never resist. And so during the holidays, I found myself drawing a bath at a friends place: eagerly mixing my bubble bath and bath salts to perfection (It does not do, to stew myself in something that smells like a puddle), carefully lighting tea light candles whilst arranging a nice chilled glass of white wine and some fresh strawberries in easy reach. Perfection, I’m almost purring just thinking about it…

Well it would have been if not for my friends beloved parrot.

I was just begining to unwind when suddenly a shill little voice screeched, “What are you doing?” “Hey, what are you doing?” then wolf whistling with zest. It’s more than a little disconcerting… Stubbornly clinging to the idea I could continue my bath, I was sure the parrot purged his system of the need to say anything further. I was certainly not going to encourange, respond or in any way engage with him at the expense of my bath. How wrong I can be. I was treated to several renditions of the “what are you doing?” sequence then the wolf whistle with bonus blood curdling screech at irregular intervals… There was only one way a hot bath could cure this for me, but quite frankly I just don’t have it in me to be cruel to an animal.

And so, I was thwarted by a 3 inch feather-duster with no sense of privacy and a tradesman’s vocabulary.

We don’t pay collectively

Every month I have a standing date with the girls. It’s my societal equivilent to the family Sunday dinner… except of course we’re brought together by choice. Needless to say, I love the second sunday of the month. What’s not for me to love – where ever we congregate there’s always lashings of conversation, stories and laughs. The hours just slip-slip on by.

Fine Desserts welcome | snarly wait staff are not

And what is good company without the neccessary accoutrements? A selection of consumables: beverages, lunch and desserts. And herein lies my point: you see, we always meet out. It protects this precious time effortlessly as “ours”.

Sound delightful? It is. unfortunately, the end of such lovely reverie is frequently marred by an uppity waiter with little to no customer service. There’s nothing that ruins a sense of food-induced wellbeing like sloppy treatment from your hostess.

In the course of the last year I have had a number of bad experiences in cafe’s in Brisbane. Waiters beware – I’m not a happy customer if:

* I have to stand at a cash register waiting for you to finish texting on your phone/ chatting to a friend or the barman before I can pay

* I have to endure complaints about coworkers or the previous customer before you take my money.

It’s rude, unprofessional and I’m unlikely to go back. That’s my power as a consumer. What’s really gotten to me in this instance is that old chestnut “we don’t split the bill”. Apparently, all the customer service required is a small laser-printed sign attached to side of the counter which the hostess drew to our attention with all the care of a militant fundamentalist. There was no kindly, “Oh I’m sorry we don’t split the bill” or “if you pop round to the left there is an ATM to use; I’ll just print a receipt so you can work out your totals”. Sure she might have had to explain that to 50 people that day, but this cafe has a dedicated cashier so a) that’s her job and b) if they’re getting lots of people wanting to split the bill maybe they need to readdress the payment strategy (I’d suggest better signage in the first instance).

It’s the 21 century: if you’re a restaurant or cafe that’s big enough to have a dedicated cashier, and five people’s coffee and dessert are well over $150.00 you can afford to invest in better service training and/or more flexible payment options.

A youthful new year

Something about that calendar ticking over to a bright and shiny new year is a lovely wonderful idea. 

This year is ripe with hope… RIPE I tell you! All potential and plans just bubbling away under the surface, a future just effervescing to a certain reality… I hope. And what does the future hold?

Try every tea available in Australia — Learn to Ride-A-Bike — Wear false eyelashes to a non-event — Do something out of crazy for a guy —  Ride a camel — Try on a wedding dress — Buy an easel — Take up painting again — Attend a ball — Grow my own herbs — Go kayaking — Be conversational in French & Arabic — Go berry picking — Take up dancing again — Ride a horse again — High Tea for no reason — Start a savings account — Champagne Thursday, make it a tradition — Learn to use my camera — Girly retreat — Invent a cocktail — Go a week without my phone — Make Ice Cream from scratch — Finish up or forget all my unfinished projects — Throw 10 parties  |  Family Dinner Party  |  Chick Flick Bonanza — Get a moquito net for over the bed — Put up my fairy lights again — Accept a belly dancers invitation to dance at Caravanserai but know my limits; limbo always ends badly — Read the poetry of other countries — Be a right bitch about something — Walk barefoot in a park — Go to the theatre, ballet and/or opera — Use the good tea set.

This is the plan thus far. Feel free to comment or let me know your own lists.

Coffee with Lil’sis

I met Lil’sis for a catch-up coffee. She’s all shiny-haired and stylishly attired. We perch on our cafe chairs like good little patrons and snippy-ly await our beverages. We always order the same, which is unusual for me, one skinny latte + one flat-white. I love our coffee breaks.

Coffee with Lil'sis

Coffee with Lil'sis | Photo courtesy of Moi

Once our orders arrive, addiction slightly abated; we’re free to delve into the family gossip, who makes the better coffee (family get-togethers are a battle of the barista’s) and why; WHY?!? does someone insist on putting a heaped teaspoon of International Roast into a giant mug? Coffee pleasure is not achieved by cup size. If it’s bad, I’m not feeling appreciative because you’ve given me a scant litre. Are you trying to burn a hole in my stomach? We both shudder and gratefully sip our beautiful, creamy full-bodied brews.

I don’t even mind the universally uncomfortable cafe chairs – who are they designed by? But in the moment, I don’t care. My modest-sized coffee is that good.

Fascinators in full-bloom

Irving Penn - Vintage Fashion Photo

Race-day fashions had a big outing this Melbourne Cup Day. I had the pleasure of being in the CBD, watching sharp-suited men escorting their well-heeled, be-fascinatored women. Everyone looking very well; lovely. I’m a big fan of the fascinator, personally I think there should be more occasions to wear them! The more frivolous the better.

Fascinators, in my view are the perfect combination of elegance, flirtation and drama; they are the antithesis of work. They’re feminine and in my experience donning a fascinator has ALWAYS followed a thoroughly enjoyable event.

In fact, I found an online definition for fascinators as, “delicate, slightly-to-very frivolous head decoration”. Originally however, the term described shawl-like headcoverings made out of wool and lace… not so fabulous. Thank goodness for the milliners renaissance.

In Brisbane, Alexandra Harper is a haute-couture milliner who makes amazing pieces. Myer is also stocking a sparkling array of fascinators if you’re not looking for an artisan’s work. So there is really no excuse for not having one in your collection.

And when should you reach for that fabulous fascinator?

  • if champagne is being opened
  • weddings
  • funerals
  • cocktail parties (or ‘cocktail attire’ is called for)
  • launching a boat… or other mode of transport
  • fancy dress
  • high-tea/lunch with the girls

Eat Pray Love

Eat Pray Love

Bestselling book now on film

My individuality took a hit over the weekend. I went to see Eat Pray Love,  like just about every other woman in Australia, hell maybe the Western World.

The cinema was packed full (staff had to come out and ask everyone to move along to take up every available seat in the cinema) in what could only be described as a market segmenters dream. For me, it was definitely girls-night out.

Adapted from Elizabeth Gilbert‘s book, also titled Eat Pray Love, it’s a memoir of Liz’s journey to self-awareness and love following her divorce. Having never read the book, or been divorced for that matter, I wondered what made this book and movie so appealing? I imagine many that night in the cinema were in the same boat… and I’m not sure that if your values were taking a hit from a divorce seeing this movie would be top of your action list.

A big drawcard for this movie is the scenery as Liz travels through Italy, India and Indonesia.  But more importantly I think the basic themes of self-awareness, spirituality and respecting your values were what makes this book so accessible. Mostly for me, it had a couple of my favourite things – good food and travel being the foremost.  It was a couple of hours spent with friends that was very enjoyable and the seque into a heady array of conversation.

You can see the official trailers for Eat Pray Love here.